The Circle of Security is a relationship based early intervention program designed to enhance attachment security between parents and children. Decades of university-based research have confirmed that secure children exhibit increased empathy, greater self-esteem, better relationships with parents and peers, enhanced school readiness, and an increased capacity to handle emotions more effectively when compared with children who are not secure.
At the heart of the Circle of Security is the art of Being-With. This capacity includes knowing what gets in the way, something we call “Shark Music.” With the help of our talented friends at Hands Up in England, we now have an animation to easily explain these key COS concepts.
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Being-With is, in many ways, at the heartbeat of our Circle of Security approach. It’s such a simple concept: the need every child has for caregivers (parents, teachers, etc.) to recognize and honor feelings by staying with core feelings rather than denying their importance. At the center of this Being-With approach is decades of research […]Read more >
Pretend for a moment that every parent on the planet has this one simple fact in common: we all have exactly twelve flaws as parents. Not that these flaws are the same for everyone. Many of us have similar configurations fitting into similar patterns while also being stunningly unique in how messed up we actually […]Read more >
“In piloting Circle of Security Parenting©, I watched parents integrate new insights rapidly and effortlessly. A new sense of understanding and confidence followed, allowing them to respond to their children in ways that were noticeably more secure.”
Angeles Morcuende, M.D.
University of Iowa
“The Circle of Security Parenting© DVD is an outstanding contribution and a “must see” for parents of young children. Focusing on how parent/child relationships can be strengthened, this unique approach teaches parents and those helping them new ways to understand children’s needs and behavior. It also offers effective ways to respond to these needs and behaviors. I have found it invaluable in my own work with parents of young children.”
Charles H. Zeanah, M.D.
Tulane University School of Medicine
Editor of Handbook of Infant Mental Health